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- Couples love having all the attention on them on their wedding day.
- However, this couple was asked to share their special day with a teenager, the groom's ill sister.
- The groom's parents wanted a wedding for their teen, as she may not have her own.
Weddings are a special day for couples to celebrate their love, joined by family and friends. As a result, so many rules are put in place to ensure guests' attention is on the couple and no one else. One couple was asked if they could share their wedding day with the groom's sister, who had been diagnosed with leukaemia. They refused and offered to help with payments for the sister to have her own special day instead.
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Taking to Reddit, the bride-to-be began the story by telling readers that she is engaged to her boyfriend, Peter, and they are set to tie the knot next year. "Peter has a sister, Olivia, who is 15 years old and was recently diagnosed with leukaemia. She's receiving chemotherapy." She says one of Olivia's dreams in life is to get married. "Ever since I've known her, she's talked about her future wedding and has planned every last detail. Since she got diagnosed, she's become very worried that she won't be able to have her dream wedding because she might pass before that happens."
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She added that Olivia is likely to survive her diagnosis and go on to live a full life, although there is a possibility she might not make it. The unnamed bride-to-be and her groom have been planning their wedding, but recently Peter's parents approached them with a proposition. "Peter's parents approached us a few days ago and asked if we would be willing to dedicate some of our wedding time to Olivia since she might not get one of her own. According to them, Olivia wants to wear a wedding dress, invite a lot of her friends, have a say in the food, cake, decorations and have a first dance with her boyfriend." Peter's parents thought doing all this at his wedding would be better since the family would be there.
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"Peter and I were shocked they would ask this since we thought that our wedding would be about us. I know Olivia is struggling, and I feel completely awful for her since no teenager should have their youth ruined by cancer, but I don't see why we can't have a separate party for her instead of having to dedicate half of our day to her." She adds that inviting Oliva's friends would add more costs to the wedding. The couple said they'd think about it but decided not to agree. Peter's parents and family did not receive the news well. "They said they couldn't believe we were prioritising ourselves over a child with cancer, that we were being selfish. They said this might be Olivia's only chance for a wedding and that we are denying her 'dying wish'".
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She adds that Peter's parents couldn't do a separate party because sharing their wedding will make this more authentic. "Peter's family has been spamming us with messages about how terrible we're being to Olivia." Users of the platform went on the comment section to advise the couple, with one saying, "Honestly, I find the whole thing kind of repulsive. A fake wedding for a maybe dying child is maudlin and in very poor taste." Another added that "This request is way out of line and is frankly quite creepy. They want to piggyback off your wedding to throw a fantasy party for a teen?" Another added that Peter's parents have a favourite, "Sounds like Peter's parents have a favourite, and it isn't Peter."
Source: Reddit
