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- In today's world, knowing what works for a relationship is difficult because of different upbringings and dynamics.
- One's rules about maintaining a relationship may not apply to someone else.
- Relationship and sex expert Dr Emily Jamea shares five things to avoid to keep the love alive.
Relationship rules have changed over the years as gender roles evolve. The rules that our great-grandparents followed when it came to love don't apply as we live in a generation where people are focused on their needs. It isn't all bad; however, we need to look back at history before creating our own rules so we can avoid repeating mistakes that were made by the older generation. A love and libido expert has shared five things all couples should remember to keep love alive.
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Taking to TikTok, Dr Emily Jamea shared five things she would never do as an experienced relationship and sex therapist with over 15 years of experience.
1. Get married after knowing someone for less than a year - You've got to give the honeymoon stage time to pass, and it takes at least a year to fully know someone.
2. Adhere to outdated rules about dating - One of the things that Dr Emily loved about her husband is that he called when he said he was going to call. If you love someone, it's okay to show up when you promised to.
3. Never stop dating your partner - You cannot get lazy and complacent in your relationship. Don't schlep around in sweats all day, every day.
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4. Never stop prioritising sex - Countless studies show a strong link between sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction. It's super important to nurture this part of your relationship.
5. Never criticise someone for a sexual issue - We all have off days sometimes, and being critical can turn a little hiccup into a big issue, so be kind.
The viral video has over 2 million views on the platform, and her followers took to the comment section to share their thoughts, with some supporting her and others disagreeing with some of the things she mentioned. One said, "We knew after three days, our families pushed us to wait one year to marry. We have been married for 25 years." Another added, "I think point number three needed to be elaborated. It can easily be perceived as the 60's housewife expectations of having to be 'dolled up' constantly."
Another raised an interesting argument concerning point three by saying, "Is it really about what you wear or is it about making an effort? Effort can be present through different forms, and some or most can include sweatpants."
