Do you feel like others abuse your kindness? Here’s what could actually be happening

You can't save everyone without eventually sacrificing yourself. But for those who are people-pleasers, it is difficult to set boundaries and say no. 

Life coach Thembi Hama calls it the "saviour or fixer mentality".  Sometimes you have to look at other people's issues and say, "that's not my circus, and those are not my monkeys", she says. 

People-pleasers might not always be able to recognise how they break their backs for others, and often, their actions aren't reciprocated.